On Thursday, February 6th a Courageous Conversation happened in room Q3 and discussed how young people say things that can come out differently to others. Students discuss their stories and experiences of the times they have talked and how each land’s differently. This conversation reflects on the misunderstandings that can arise from these differences. The discussion also emphasizes the need for careful listening and clear expression.
During the discussion, students explored the importance of language and the impact of tone, context, and body language on how their words are perceived. They realized that even well-intentioned comments could be misunderstood or taken out of context. Students express their thoughts on how even shame can be needed to be “better”. The topic was controversial and it got students to talk more about their personal stories on how shame was either good or bad toward them. Some students also concluded that understanding empathy is crucial in communication to ensure that their words are well-intentioned.
Mr. Coulter says “A lot of times we talk in a way to people and we think that because we didn’t mean it negatively that they should take it positively or they shouldn’t be affected by it.” This discussion points out how people take stuff differently based on how it’s said. This encourages students to think about their language and how it might make others feel, helping them understand the importance of speaking more respectfully. Another student says “We don’t have to say stuff negatively or put shame into someone in order to make them better.” This highlights how people shouldn’t need to be put down and feel bad about themselves in order to improve themselves.
This discussion highlights how the things we say don’t land the way we think we will. This conversation helped students see different point-of -view on how shame is either good or bad. It makes them realize the importance of being aware of their words and their effects. By understanding this, students are able to communicate more effectively and respectfully with others. Overall, this discussion helped students open up more on their thoughts on how stuff should be said for it to not land negatively.
